How To Know If You’re Being Strung Along

I recently fell for someone who I connected with. He seemed like he wanted a relationship but I found out that he was stringing me along for something casual. I still have feelings for him and I want to move on but I’m worried it’s going to happen again. Is there anything I can do with the next person to make sure we want the same thing?

 

 

The reason this happens is almost always because the person who wants a relationship choses to read into the behaviors of the person they’re dating instead of directly telling them that they want a relationship. 

Assuming you don’t stumble upon a sociopath on your next date, most people won’t mislead you if you tell them directly that you’re looking for something that will lead to a serious relationship. People don’t want the guilt or the consequences when there are so many others who’ll never directly ask for what they want. 

The thing is, you’re not telling the person that you necessarily want a ltr with them. You’re saying that if they only want something casual, you’re not their girl. 

I think people mostly convince themselves that they risk scaring a potential partner away by being honest when what they’re really doing is protecting themselves against feeling too vulnerable. 

You need to grab your ovaries and state your truth. You’re not going to send someone running if they want the same thing you do. 

 

 

Writer’s Demographics

Gender: Female

Sexual Orientation: Straight