I’m not a quitter. Not personally and certainly not professionally. People come to me when they need hope - a cheerleader – someone to fuel inject them with possibility. But every now and then, a client or a friend shares a story about a relationship and it becomes profoundly clear ...

With Valentine’s Day behind us, this week seemed as good as any to give you a microdose of your Dr. Darcy meds. What follows is, as always, the stuff you’ll only get here. This is why you can’t find love: You're looking for your soulmate. But the notion of a ...

Amy is one of my favorite clients. I’ve changed her name of course. She’s been dating her girlfriend for 2 years. Her primary complaint today is the same one she had in the first 3 months of her relationship: Her girlfriend tries to avoid any discussions that involve potential conflict. ...

 If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I’m all about personal responsibility – not in the capital R sort of way, rather, in the how did you contribute to the conflict you’re in sort of way.  Basically, if you can’t pony up to your ...

I’ve been thinking a lot about healing lately. It was the throughline in Biden’s inauguration. He called it unity. We have to “unite” he says. It’s the only way to heal. There are other voices who say that healing can’t begin until justice is served. Those who enabled four years ...

Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m going to start by saying that if I could be a lesbian, I would be. I am so tired of the guys I date giving up on me if I don’t come within 5 minutes of oral. Do girls really orgasm that fast? My last boyfriend ...