Why Do I Keep Choosing People Who Don’t Choose Me?

You meet someone and the chemistry is immediate. The conversation has energy. They say something sharp, observant, a little flirtatious. You feel it. Not just mentally. In your body. Your attention narrows. Your mood lifts. You start thinking, oh. And at first, nothing feels wrong. They text. Then they don’t. ...

Prefer to hear the full conversation? Listen to the episode → Spotify | Apple Podcasts There are moments in relationships that don’t look dramatic enough to count. No screaming. No slammed doors. No obvious cruelty. Just a conversation that shifts in a way you can feel before you can explain ...

A relationship can get calmer without getting better. That gives you a cleaner blog because it does something your email does not fully do: it introduces a distinction instead of restating the whole argument. That would look more like this: Just because a relationship feels calmer doesn’t mean it’s getting ...

Consent culture was necessary. Too many women were being sexually harmed inside norms that treated silence as agreement, pressure as seduction, and the absence of a no as permission. Today, an explicit yes is the standard. In some circles, consent is elicited at every step of sexual escalation:  “Can I ...

Most of us can feel the moment coming. The thing we’ve been holding back rises to the surface, and then we start doing the math:  If I say it, this could turn into a fight. If I let it go, we get through dinner. If I wait, maybe it fixes ...

Why don’t I feel connected in my relationship — even though we talk all the time? If you communicate constantly but still feel lonely, this episode explains why. You can talk about your attachment style. You can process every trigger. You can communicate beautifully. And still not feel close. Communication ...