The Most Difficult
Relationship In My Life

My mother and I are... complicated. From as early as I can remember, I wanted to save her. She’s always needed saving.  The man she married was mean. He seemed like dead weight to me. A boulder she carried while traveling miles. He ate a lot. Didn’t work much. Had ...

Q Dr. Darcy, I’m having some sexual issues with my boyfriend. We started dating just before the pandemic. By the time we were out of lockdown I was so sexually deprived that every time we hooked up, we bypassed foreplay and got right to sex. Now that we’ve been having ...

Dear Dr. Darcy, my boyfriend of more than 2 years just gave me an ultimatum. He says I either stop being jealous or he’s done. I wasn’t going through his phone or anything like that. I stopped doing that a long time ago. But he was more than an hour ...

So I’m falling for an unhappily married straight woman I work with. We have become close, sharing information about our own relationships and we have built a strong bond. I’m not stupid. I know this is probably a disaster. The main problem is I feel so confused because I try ...

Everyone wants their partner to change. “Why can’t he be more romantic?” “If only we had more sex [hotter sex; less sex; any sex], I’d have no complaints.” “I just want her to make me a priority.” In my (gasp) 20+ year career, the one constant among my clients is ...

I’m a sucker for love. I love falling in love, being in love, supporting other people in love – and saving people who are falling out of love. It’s strange to say, ‘I love saving people who are falling out of love.’ Makes me sound grandiose. But it turns out ...