When Is Enough Enough?

Dr. Darcy, I’m a 40-year old woman who fell in love with a woman for the first time. It is like nothing I have ever experienced. But I have a problem with her talking and hanging out with her ex, who she admits still has feelings for her. She even told me they hung out one night and watched a movie. It was late so her ex slept on the couch (later I found out that she slept in her bed fully clothed but NOTHING happened…hard to believe right?) [My girlfriend] is 48, her ex is 28 – BIG difference in age but the 28 year old knows how to play mind games. My girlfriend suffers from mental illnesses such as BPD [borderline personality disorder], anxiety & PTSD. 

 

Question is when is enough ENOUGH??! I’m confused beyond belief as to what to believe anymore. My girlfriend says she is just a friend – they’ve known each other for 2 years but only dated 3 months). Never had sex with her but being new to the girlfriend/girlfriend situation, I thought exploring with your fingers and kissing were sex?? I feel as though I can’t break up with her but I can’t stand feeling like this anymore…

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My Daughter’s Fiancé is Disrespectful to Her

Dear Dr. Darcy:  Help! My daughter’s fiancé is mean and disrespectful towards her in front of my husband and myself. It can be a word or a whole tirade. On Mother’s Day my daughter and her fiancé made us a lovely breakfast at their home. The fiancé was cooking French toast and stepped away for…

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SheTox: The Lesbian Detox

Dear Dr. Darcy:  My girlfriend and I recently broke up after almost 2-years together. As much as I loved her, she was my first girlfriend and I just know that I need to play the field before I settle down.   Long story short, she feels betrayed by my need to date other women. Aside…

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7 Reasons You Don’t Want to Miss Master Minds

1. Everything in life stems from our philosophy. Our belief system creates the lens through which we see and respond to the world. If you go to Master Minds, you’re going to learn how to adopt a philosophy that will serve you. 2. You’re going to learn how to use your emotions to bridge the…

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