Why You Get Angrier When Your Partner Tries to Fix the Problem

You’re trying to tell your partner what happened. Something at work. Something with your family. Something that embarrassed you, hurt you, overwhelmed you, or just left you needing them for a minute. And before you feel like they actually understand what you’re saying, they start fixing it. “Well, did you tell your boss that?” “You…

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Are You Talking Your Sex Life to Death? Why Trying to Fix It Can Kill Desire

There is a point in a long-term relationship where talking about sex stops feeling intimate. It starts feeling like a meeting. One person brings it up because they are lonely. Frustrated. Feeling rejected. Scared that this part of the relationship is disappearing. The other person hears: I’m failing. I’m being evaluated. My body is now…

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