The Enemy of Your Orgasm

Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’m going to start by saying that if I could be a lesbian, I would be. I am so tired of the guys I date giving up on me if I don’t come within 5 minutes of oral. Do girls really orgasm that fast?

My last boyfriend had a scruff and when I asked him to be careful (because his stubble was HURTING ME), he told me that he’s never had complaints before and that I was the only girl he’s ever been with who didn’t orgasm through sex.

Is there something wrong with me? Are all men like this?

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V is for Vulnerability this Valentine’s Day

It’s the key ingredient to a healthy relationship – and the hallmark to a healthy intimate relationship.

I know this.

Intellectually.

I’ve personally experienced the deep connection and sense of belonging that comes when I’ve taken down my wall and allowed another person to see who I truly am – flaws and all.

And as great as it may feel on the other side – when the person with whom I’ve been vulnerable responds with kindness and compassion and says they care about me even more because I’ve been real with them – no matter how good this new bond may feel, I never get there intentionally.

It is generally my conscious intent to avoid that very dynamic: the one where I’m exposed to personal judgement or rejection. Keep reading to see how I struggle with vulnerability…

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7 Ways Texting Can Kill A Relationship

Texting is a necessary part of life – particularly in our personal lives.

As a therapist, I love the transparency that texting provides me. Gone are the days when I used to rely on a client’s ability to accurately retell a conversation of what transpired outside of session. Texting, for me, is the equivalent of going directly to the videotape.

Not a day goes by without someone thrusting their phone in my face, saying, “Can you believe this?!”

I can believe it, because I’ve seen it all.

In fact, I’ve seen so many texting faux pas that today I offer you the 7 Most Common Text Mistakes I see people make which cause their conversations (and often, their relationships) to implode.

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