5 Conversation Pivots This Thanksgiving

Ah, Thanksgiving. The smell of familiar food. The gathering of family. And the dreaded conversations that you don’t want to have.

From the personal:

“So, are you dating anyone?”
“When are you going to have kids?”
“What do you do?”

To the political – which I won’t risk triggering you with teasers of – my office and social media overflow in the week(s) leading up to Thanksgiving with concerns about how to navigate the landmine of miserable table topics.

This year I’ve got solutions. PIVOTS so smooth they won’t even know they’re on a different topic.

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Is it possible for a jealous person to change?

Q

Dr. Darcy, 

Every relationship I have is overshadowed by my jealousy. I don’t trust my partners, I’m always waiting for the first sign that they’re lying. My partners are so tired of dealing with my issues and, ironically, they don’t even know half the things I’m jealous of because I’m not trying to look like a crazy person. 

Is it possible for a jealous person to change?

A

Jealousy is a normal human emotion. We’re all born able to feel it, as we’re able to feel all emotions. 

In some people, however, jealousy mutates into something different. And managing it in relationships can feel like a job. One that you suck at. 

I would argue that we’d all suck at a job we were never trained in. 

So, the first thing we have to do is see if you have ‘normal’ jealousy (which I doubt), and you can do that in just seconds by taking my quiz here.

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So your partner wants an open relationship?

Q

Dr. Darcy, I met a woman on Tinder and I really like her. We dated 2 months before making a commitment. A week later she told me she wants an open relationship. Can we work this out?

Please don’t tell me this is my fault for going on a hook up app when I was looking for a relationship. 

A

Dude, vet your sources before you presume to call Tinder a “hookup app” to the former Global Ambassador of Tinder. 😂😂😂You really can’t make this shit up. Now, let’s discuss your situation…

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My boyfriend is a crossdresser…Is there hope for us?

I recently found out that my boyfriend is a crossdresser. He said he can’t remember how it all started. If I’m totally against it, do you think there would ever be any kind of hope for us?

What you’re really asking is whether you can change your boyfriend – get him to stop crossdressing. And, if you can’t change him, you’re wondering if you can change yourself. Find a way to accept something you may be totally against, right? 

Here’s What I Told HER…

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