Out of Bounds

Dear Dr. Darcy: What do you do when your girlfriend’s exes keep coming out and declaring their love for her?  [My girlfriend] took a ‘break’ with me and slept with her [ex] a few times.  We got together again…  I hadn’t known about them sleeping together until we sat down and talked about the future. I…

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The Blame Game

Dear Dr. Darcy: My fiancé and I have been together over 4 years and we used to be a very loving and passionate couple. About a year ago she switched jobs to working nights to be able to handle things with kids better. Over the last 6 to 8 months the passion and intimacy in…

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Teen Transitions

My 17 yr old child told us about a year ago that he/she is transgender and now wants to start hormones. He has been to a psychologist in Grand Rapids, Mi once who says he is a typical transgender. I want to let him do it, but it scares me, his father would like him…

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Shopping Shrinks

Hi Dr Darcy, My boyfriend and I both love your advice column — reading it helped us decide to find a couple’s counselor to help us work through some issues where we’re deadlocked. 🙂 When my boyfriend suggested going to therapy, I loved the idea… But now we’re overwhelmed. What should we look for in…

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Family Affair

[My girlfriend and I are in] a serious relationship… We’ve been together for 4 years and just a month ago I suspected that she’s having [an affair], [specifically, that she was] cheating  [on me] with my brother-in-law, but I said nothing until my sister [began] suspecting [that] her husband [was cheating] and we both felt the…

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Princess Charming

I’m a lesbian and in a very good relationship.  The only problem is that when I call her out on something she did that upset me, she immediately apologizes for it and does whatever it is I asked her to do differently, but she doesn’t want to talk about it.  I’m worried that she avoids…

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My Daughter’s An Average Student: Help!

Dear Dr. Darcy: My 16 year old daughter is on a path to nowhere good.  She has no interest in school, grades, or college, despite being tested as ‘gifted and talented’ years ago.  She’s wasting her life, focusing on friends and just coasting through school.  I don’t think she’s into drugs, but we just got…

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Privacy Laws in Mental Health

Dr. Darcy, is it [OK] to get a test if you are on medicines like Abilify and Paxil?  [Does] the law protect me for my sickness, or [can] they use the test [results] like evidence [against me]? ANSWER This is a great question.  Essentially, you’ve been prescribed two medications:  Paxil, which is an antidepressant and…

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