Archive for April 2014
Planning the Funeral of Lesbian Bed Death
Dear Dr. Darcy, This is a final follow-up report to your blog entry of March 3 [linked to here]. I did follow the 0/100 rule, which worked great for the relationship. And I eventually gathered whatever courage and optimism I had left and tried to initiate some sex with my partner, with no pressure and no expectation. And,…
Read MoreChallenging Stereotypes
Hi Dr. Sterling, I am gay and I come from a very traditional/conservative family. Despite of the acceptance of gay marriage in the country, legally speaking, the world still holds a heavy prejudice against gays. So we know it’s a delicate subject, because people are still reluctant to accept changes. I was always very private.…
Read MoreAdjusting Expectations
Hi Darcy. I feel weird about this but here goes. Recently I started seeing a chiropractor. I had 2 visits thus far and I am feeling pretty good. I am very single and he is very married. The thing is I think I have a mad crush on him and I am feeling horrible and…
Read MoreHopeless In California
Dr. Darcy, I’ve been with my current girlfriend for a year and a half now. She’s a wonderful woman whom I love dearly and plan to marry. The only issue is our sex life. We’ve never really had much of a sex life and I am the problem. My desire for sex is just not…
Read MoreAnother Wrong Guy?
Carrie (speaking to her therapist’s other patient, who she just slept with): So why are you in therapy? Guy: I’m really fucked up about women. After I sleep with them I completely lose interest in them. How about you? Carrie: I pick the wrong men. Dr. Darcy: I have a crush on the male patient…
Read MoreAm I Gay?
Hi Dr. Darcy: I was wanting to know by any chance if I was gay or not. When I see two guys kiss, I get turned on so much that I feel… hornier than if a girl and a guy made out. In the past [I’ve had] had sexual dreams of having sex with men…
Read MoreTips For A Teen Who Just Came Out
Hi Dr.Darcy. I am a teen who recently came out and I am having a hard time making sure it doesn’t make people think differently of me or interfere with family life. I don’t want to be asked a million questions by my parents about my sexual orientation because frankly I’m still not so comfortable about talking…
Read MoreThe Value of Happiness
Dear Dr. Darcy: My life is the life that any woman would want. It looks so perfect from the outside, but inside I’m dying. Maybe I’m already dead. If I’m alive I’m hanging on by a thread. I don’t know what to do to change it. I’m afraid if I explore this, I’ll fall apart. …
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