3-ways are so 90’s. Today, we enter “Throuples.”

Q

Hi Darcy, I’m a 23-year old female and I’m in a “throuple” with a straight couple. Samantha is in her late twenties and Justin is in his early thirties. They’re emotionally intelligent, successful and fun individuals who think monogamy is not the answer to long-term happiness.

The only reason I opted into this is because I’m in love with Samantha. He’s cool and all, but he’s just the entry fee…

We’ve all talked about the fact that two way relationships will develop at different speeds and different intensities.

What should I do about this long-term?

A

For my readers who aren’t familiar with the word, a throuple is a couple plus one. And if you thought being monogamous was tough, try being flexible in your relationship model…

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It’s time for a sexual PSA

Q

Dr. Darcy,

I’m having some sexual issues with my boyfriend. We started dating just before the pandemic. By the time we were out of lockdown I was so sexually deprived that every time we hooked up, we bypassed foreplay and got right to sex.

Now that we’ve been having sex for a month, I find myself missing and needing foreplay. He mentioned to me once in the beginning that the only negative feedback he ever got from an ex was that he didn’t do foreplay.

Is there a way to address this with him?

A

I’m going to go on a rant for a second:

Straight Men (or should I say, Straight boys), WTF is up with the absence of foreplay? Do you not realize that what makes a person amazing in bed is the ability to please your partner?

Some of you are thinking: The problem is that they learn how to have sex from porn, to which I’ll say, As did my generation – and I have never had a sexual experience with a man who didn’t engage in foreplay. And at a skilled level, I’ll add. You’re welcome, my exes. And thank you.

Back to your question:

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