A Mother’s Love

Dear Dr. Darcy, Twenty years ago, I fell in love with a woman after a long-term traditional marriage and four children. The court granted custody…of the children to my ex-husband. Suffice it to say that he alienated them from me, to the point [where] they refused my gifts, phone calls, and visits. Eventually they severed…

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Fabulous Products For Organizing

Welcome to Tuesday’s Tips, the one-day a week when I dispense useful, actionable and empowering tips! I’ve gotten so many responses to my recent posts on minimizing mess and getting organized. Many of you are asking for direct recommendations/links for keeping small spaces organized. Well I have to tell you ~ very few things make…

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Therapy Matters

Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m a therapist and I’m having difficulty with my clients. Actually, I’m having difficulty with Me. I know that we’re trained to believe that a client’s success is their own responsibility, but like you, I feel that I owe it to help paying clients. I have a master’s degree from a top…

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Cheating Is NOT An Open Relationship

Dear Dr. Darcy: I caught my boyfriend cheating on me. I’m not devastated over the cheat. I’m pissed off because from the beginning I wanted an open relationship and only agreed to monogamy for him because he insisted on it. Now of course he’s willing to have an open relationship but strangely I’m inclined to…

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Adult ADHD

Dear Dr. Darcy: My wife has been nagging me for years to see a doctor because she thinks I have ADD [attention deficit disorder]. She’s mad that I’ve been out of work for almost 6 months and am not Mr. Mom now that I’m home all day. Her attitude towards me has gotten so bad…

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What Kind Of Dancer Do You Want To Be

Dear Dr. Darcy: I recently hit hard times. I’m having a hard time meeting rent and can’t afford to go out anymore…. I came to New York to be a dancer and I can’t even afford dance classes anymore.  Ironically, right next door to my dance studio is a high-end strip club. I’ve been approached…

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What Motivates You?

Welcome to Format Free Friday, when I break the format of answering your questions and I dispense that which we rarely welcome in life: Unsolicited Advice. What motivates you, seeking pleasure or avoiding pain? Let me help you answer the question:  If you are someone who thrives on pressure or deadlines, you are motivated by…

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I Felt A Lump

I was reaching for something in my pantry and felt discomfort in my right breast.  I never feel discomfort in my breasts, so I stopped what I was doing and felt around with my left hand and within a second I felt a lump. I walked into the kitchen, poured myself a glass of chardonnay,…

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