Archive for September 2019

Of the many topics I write about, relationships top them. I am literally inundated with questions about what people should and shouldn’t do in relationships, how certain scenarios should be handled, and when it’s time to pull the plug. In light of this, here is an incomplete list of things you should never do in a relationship…

Based on the way I felt when I turned 25, I would have predicted that turning 50 would infuse a level of fear in me that would be paralyzing. 

To be totally honest, I’m not sure why it hasn’t. Maybe it’s coming? Maybe I’m in denial? 

I can only report what I’m consciously aware of, the totality of which leaves me feeling surprisingly underwhelmed. Oddly bland. Neutral. Which is weird because I don’t live in the center of the bell curve, emotionally speaking. 

I’m a passionate girl (do I have to call myself lady now?), who spent decades wishing I did live in a state of neutrality more often. Because for a long time I responded to my emotional highs and lows – alternately acting impulsively when I was deliriously excited over something or lashing out with a level of rage that terrified me when I was on the unhappy end of the emotional spectrum. I just could not sit with emotions.

Which seems a good place to start writing about the changes I feel on my insides as I celebrate my 50th birthday.

And what does that mean, anyway? 

Last a lifetime? A Decade? Quarter of a century?

What length of time constitutes a good run among intimate partners?

Today, Steph and I celebrate 10 years of marriage. Looking back over the 3,650 days since our wedding, the thing I attribute our longevity to boils down to a single concept…