Archive for April 2024

What you may not know about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is that talk therapy is more likely to retraumatize you than to heal you.  There’s a neurological explanation for why talk therapy is often ineffective for trauma: Talking about the bad thing that happened opens up the same networks in your brain that were activated…

Most people think they have a history of picking the wrong partner. They describe themselves as having a “bad picker.” The problem was in their choice of partner — not in how they co-managed the relationship.  Today, I’m making the argument that we all pick the wrong partner.  You will pick a partner who, over…

For members of the LGBTQ community, coming out isn’t a one-off conversation. It’s more like a series of discussions in which the person discloses to their loved ones that they are not the expected default, and instead are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, queer/questioning — or some combination thereof. The process of coming out is largely…

People who are unhappy in their lives have common denominators. It doesn’t matter what area of life they’re unhappy with — the solve is the same because the issue isn’t really about that particular area of their life — it’s about the way they approach things.  Today, I’m going to show you how unhappiness in…

Years ago, I was gutted by a falling out with one of my siblings. It quickly became clear that we were on the verge of estrangement, and that impending loss brought me to my knees — I had just recovered from PTSD and was terrified of getting sucked into the black hole of trauma that…