Butch-Femme 101

Dear Darcy: I’m a butch with an undying attraction to feminine women which despite what one might imagine has not included straight women; until now. I met my current 25 year old girlfriend last month and until then she had never been with a woman. I’ve thoroughly enjoyed showing her the ways of lesbian love-making…

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Monotony. I mean, Monogamy.

Dear Dr. Darcy, I’ve been dating one woman exclusively for the past 8 months and as much as I wish this weren’t the case, my eyes are beginning to wander and I’m realizing that I’m just not meant to be monogamous. I’ve been living a polyamorous lifestyle for my entire adult life knowing that I’m…

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Eating Disorders

QUESTION I’ve been in a relationship with my partner for just under a year. She’s an attorney and I’m a trader. Recently my partner began losing weight and though I never thought she had excess pounds, I supported her decision to become healthier. However, she seems to have met and gone beyond her weight loss…

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Living Two Lives

Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m in my 30’s and I’ve always been bisexual and it’s never been a big deal to me. I live in NYC so I’ve managed to keep my girl relationships isolated to the city, and my hetero identity in Connecticut which is where I’m from. A few months ago, I started dating…

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Smothers

Hi Dr. Darcy. I am writing to you as a young adult who is still struggling with needing my mother’s acceptance. I came out when I was 15 and while my parents never threatened to disown me over being gay, I sensed early on that I should keep my personal life separate from my family…

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Straight-looking

QUESTION I am a femme and am told that I look ‘straight’, whatever that means. When I go to lesbian bars I am dismissed as ‘bi-curious’ or the ‘friend-of-a-lesbian’ girl. I have two questions: 1) Does being a lesbian mean that I need to butch myself up in order to be taken seriously? 2) Are…

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Trust Fund Baby

QUESTION Last year I came out to my family and although they seemed relatively ok, I realize now they were hoping it was just a passing phase. I’m the youngest of 5 and I’ve always had the reputation of being the drama queen in my family. Here I am a year later –still gay—and I…

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Mother In Denial

Dear Dr. Darcy, I’m a nineteen-year-old lesbian and my mom doesn’t believe me. I told her three years ago and she seemed okay with it, even offering to talk, etc. However, I noticed that whenever I said flat out that I don’t like guys, or that I explained to her that no, I am not…

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