Sex Redefined

Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m a gold star lesbian and haven’t experimented with penetration with my ex girlfriends, so does this mean I haven’t had sex? And is it normal for some lesbians not to have been penetrated by a strap on etc? ANSWER The definition of sex needs an update, you hear that, Merriam-Webster? The…

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Penetrating The Problem

Dear Dr. Darcy:  I’m a very girly femme lesbian and my girlfriend is a very butch lesbian and we have been dating for about six months, however, we don’t use any type of penetration in [our] sexual relationship and my butch girlfriend does not like [penetration] however, I do. When I bring up the penetration…

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Why You Don’t Have Friends

Welcome to Tuesday’s Tips, the one-day a week when I dispense useful, actionable and empowering tips! Some days call for brutal honesty and I feel myself compelled to embrace it this Tuesday. If you find yourself consistently losing friends, or worse, consistently without friends, this post is for you. You can’t change what you don’t…

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Forgiveness Is A Choice

Dear Dr. Darcy, How [do] I deal with an emotionally stubborn mother who is unable to forgive and wants nothing to do with my new life? She has made it clear I have wronged her in every way and bought shame to our family and destroyed my son’s life. How do I learn to accept…

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