Arrested Development

Dr. Darcy, Is it true, in your experience working with clients, that when something happens, at whatever age, that is traumatic to you, that you stay that emotional age? If so, how do you “grow up”? I have abandonment issues that stem from the age of around 12, and sometimes I think I am still…

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Saboteur

Dear Dr. Darcy: My Fiancée and I have been together for 4 and a half years, we are in the process of buying our first home and were planning to marry next year. Everything was going well and I love her, more than life itself, but, I went out with friends [on] the weekend and…

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Parent Superpower

Welcome to Tuesday’s Tips, the one-day a week when I dispense useful, actionable and empowering tips! Parents, I’m about to bestow upon you a superpower. This power is going to give you the ability to sidestep drama with your children. In fact, it is going to equip you with the skills necessary to teach them…

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Twink Gone Rogue

Dear Dr. Darcy: My boyfriend and I are very passionate. We love with passion and we fight with passion. Yesterday a fight became physical and he threw a glass at me. I wasn’t particularly concerned because I’m the top and significantly bigger than he is and I ducked and it hit the wall, but when…

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Love And Other Drugs

Dear Dr. Darcy: I have an ex girlfriend I just starting talking to again after 13 years. She at first could not remember who I was (even after being together for 2 and a half years)!!  Now almost 3 years [since we reconnected], I bring up some of the past and she remembers [some things]…

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The ROI of Therapy

Welcome to Format Free Friday, when I break the format of answering your questions and I dispense that which we rarely welcome in life: Unsolicited Advice. I’m about to make a case for something that is going to sound painfully self-serving, but because it’s true I’m not going to let that stop me. Listen up,…

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Time To Meet The Children?

Dear Dr. Darcy: I have been dating a man for almost 6 months and I’ve met his children. I’m wondering when would be an appropriate time to introduce him to my children. Is there a rule of thumb? They are ages 8 and 14. Thank you. ANSWER You should introduce your children to a significant…

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7 Reasons Why Lindsay’s Recovery Plan Is A Train Wreck

I was excited for the premiere of Lindsay on OWN. I love the network, love Oprah, and fully believe in an individual’s ability to rewrite her story. And so it came as a surprise when, by the end of the show, I found myself staring at my twitter feed, which was devoid of my usual…

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