Learning From The Past

Dear Dr. Darcy: Many years ago, I dated a girl who broke up with me because she thought I cheated on her.  We spent many years out of touch and reconnected about a decade ago and we are very good friends now.  There’s nothing intimate between us today – she’s married and I’m also in…

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Sex Guilt

Dear Dr. Darcy: I was raised in a very Catholic home that was filled with racist and homophobic slurs. My brothers (there are 9 boys) and I stopped using that language when we went off to college and learned that it’s offensive, but I’m still haunted by guilt from those days.  I’ve been out since…

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Underappreciated

Dear Dr. Darcy: I have a question: Can Relationships only maintain existence when there is equity between entitlements and obligations? My girlfriend of 9 months is now living with me. We never discussed who would do what in terms of household chores and now I regret not having brought it up before she moved in.…

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Lonely Lesbian

I’m in my 20’s and I’m lonely but I don’t know how to meet other girls.  I’m just realizing that I’m probably gay, my family has no idea and won’t for the foreseeable future, and most of my friends are straight and don’t know I’m gay.  Consequently, I’m alone a lot and I don’t have…

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Money Matters

Dear Dr. Darcy, My company has been laying off people in waves for 3 years and I’ve been lucky to make the cut to this point.  I’m pretty sure my luck is about to run out.  A friend of mine was in HR last week and said she saw my name on a stack of…

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Help! My Ex Is Getting Married.

Dear Dr. Darcy: I just found out that my ex is getting married and it’s killing me! Mind you I’m in a committed relationship so I’m not sure why this is bothering me.  I have Google alerts set up under his name and yesterday it pulled up his wedding announcement in the Times. And I…

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Sex Matters

Darcy, I am writing to you as an inexperienced 21 year old who recently started dating a 31-year old woman, but previously dated men. My question is as you get older does the desire and drive to have sex go away or ever get over ridded? Generally speaking is it wrong to think that if…

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Driving Me To Distraction!

Dr. Darcy- I’m writing about my 11 year-old son who was diagnosed with ADHD this year. I’m writing because he is having great difficulty in school, mostly with remaining seated for 37 minute-long classes. His inability to sit quietly has caused great distractions within his class and his teacher is at her wit’s end.  The…

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