Archive for October 2020
Surviving the election regardless of the outcome
4 minute read Prefer to Multitask? Listen instead! As an outspoken liberal white lesbian social worker from New York City, I’d think the majority of my readers would be of a similar demographic – and I’d be wrong. My readership is comprised of all genders, races, sexual orientations, and political affiliations. Which basically means that…
Read MoreWhy do my partners keep trying to change me?
Dear Dr. Darcy: I just ended things with the second guy I’ve dated since the pandemic. I feel like every guy I date wants to change me in some way. They want to improve my negative outlook (hello we’re living in a pandemic) or they want me to be more upbeat and energetic because they…
Read MoreWhy I don’t feel guilty over my white privilege
This fall, I took a course called Whiteness, Race, and Social Justice. I wanted someone to show me the things I can’t see in myself – all the ways I’ve been socialized and educated to participate in and perpetuate systemic racism. I came to that class riddled with guilt over my white privilege. Drowning in…
Read MoreThe 5 worst things to say to a friend going through a breakup
The days and weeks on the heels of a breakup are, for me at least, memories branded in searing pain. Time, which generally flies by, is suddenly measured in minutes, not days. My energy, the stuff that I often dial down so as not to overwhelm the person who happens to be in my company,…
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