Archive for July 2011
Blind Spots
I was raised to honor monogamy, but in the gay male world, I rarely, and I mean rarely, see it upheld either in practice or in theory as a desirable element of a relationship. I believe that gay men are capable of monogamy, and I realize it may be a struggle to maintain, particularly in…
Read MoreMrs. Right Now
Dear Dr. Darcy: I’m 22 years old and I’ve been out to my family and the free world for about 5 years now and am very comfortable with my sexuality. My first partner and I were together for 3 years before splitting up, and I quickly found myself in a new relationship with a woman…
Read MoreNOT Child’s Play
Welcome to format Free Fridays at AskDrDarcy.com, the one day a week when I break the format of answering your questions and I dispense that which we rarely welcome in life: Unsolicited advice. Today I want to talk about a subject very close to my heart: Bullying. Some of you may recall that I wrote…
Read MoreTime Out
Dear Dr. Darcy, My son refuses to let me punish him. Our therapist has told us that when he misbehaves, he needs to be consequenced. Since his favorite thing is the computer, I will try to take it away, but he is 16 years old and will physically try to grab it away from me…
Read MoreTime To Give Up?
Dear Dr. Darcy: My wife and I do not have a healthy relationship. We fight, we yell, we call each other names and often it’s in front of our 3-year-old daughter. We’ve been to couple’s counseling and I’ve been to individual counseling and nothing seems to work. Our parents are adamant that we stay together…
Read MorePleasure and Pain
Dear Dr. Darcy: How does one become not broken anymore? How does one find happiness and fulfillment when they are so broken? How does one appreciate all that they have, when it is not what they want? For the last 3 years, I have done nothing but disappoint myself, my family, my friends. I am…
Read MoreThe Good Fight
Dear Darcy: I am so tired of fighting the world. Fighting with my friends, fighting with my family, fighting for my career, fighting for acceptance of being gay. Everything’s a fight in my life. My mother once told me that my biggest flaw is my inability to accept things as they are. The thing is,…
Read MoreEverything’s Fine, Right?
Dear Dr. Darcy, My son is away for the summer and I stumbled upon some drug paraphernalia in his room. I have attached pictures of what I found. My son is 15 years old and is a very good child, however, he has had some rough times. My husband left me when he was 9…
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