Archive for March 2023
Rules of Fair Fighting
I can’t believe that in all my years of having this blog, I’ve never published on the rules of fair fighting. Today I remedy that. What follows is a simple DO THIS — DON’T DO THAT list which a 5-year old can follow. No more excuses. Now to be clear, these are instructions for when…
Read More7 Relationship Killing Text Mistakes
Texting has become a necessary part of life – particularly in our personal lives. As a therapist, I love the transparency that texting provides me. Gone are the days when I used to rely on a client’s ability to accurately retell a conversation of what transpired outside of session. Texting, for me, is the equivalent…
Read MoreThe Other F-Word
Doctor Darcy, my boyfriend of almost 2 years still says he can’t commit to be with me forever. I don’t understand! We’ve said I love you for over a year. We live together and we talk about getting engaged. But he refuses to say the word “forever” and the more he refuses, the more I…
Read MoreWhy The F*!k Am I The Only One In Therapy?
Even though I’ve built a specialty as a relationship therapist who only works with individuals, over time my clients invariably begin to resent doing “all the work” to improve their relationships — whether it’s work on an intimate relationship or with members of their family. I get it. Of my 4 siblings, only one (to…
Read MoreQuestions You Shouldn’t Have to Ask on A First Date
If you’ve been following me for any length of time, you know that I’m all about personal responsibility – not in the capital R sort of way, rather, in the how did you contribute to the conflict you’re in sort of way. Basically, if you can’t pony up to your mistakes, you’re screwed when it…
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