Archive for December 2025

In the west, monogamy is our default relationship model. But, to be clear, monogamy is a social construct. It is not inherent to our biology.  That’s an important fact to keep in mind throughout today’s conversation with New York Times Best Selling author, Molly Roden Winter, whose recent book “More: A Memoir of Open Marriage,”…

In my work as a therapist, I often hear people say, “I know what happened — I was there.” And that’s true. But their partner was there too — and they didn’t experience it the same way. This is where many relationships quietly go off track. We tend to treat our perceptions as facts rather…

If your relationships keep playing out the same way, it’s not because you’re choosing the wrong people. It’s because you’re choosing from a pattern — one that was shaped long before adulthood. Your nervous system is wired to prefer what it recognizes, not what’s good for you. That’s why “chemistry” often feels strongest with the…

We’re living in a moment where emotional reactions are being treated like evidence. Somewhere along the line, therapy language became shorthand for everything we feel — and instead of expanding our capacity, it’s shrinking it. I see it all the time: People assume the intensity of an emotion makes it accurate. A disagreement becomes disrespect.…