my jealous boyfriend won’t forgive me

My boyfriend of 3 years is the jealous type and sometimes takes it too far. A month ago, he went through my phone and came across a chat with a friend of the other gender, with whom he was already apprehensive with. The chat was purely platonic but [contained] a bit of humor and when it took [an inappropriate] turn, [I] discontinued it. Now it’s a month later, i’ve apologized every way i know how and he is brushing me off and being cold and distant toward me, not to mention about two weeks ago i found compromising chats on his phone too from two ladies. I let him go, eventually because of the lack of response. Was I right in [breaking up] with him?

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How Bad Can It Actually Be? The Myths That Cause Us To Avoid Conversations.

We’ve all been there: You have a question to ask your partner – one you imagine will be touchy… You promise yourself you’ll do it tonight, and the next thing you know, you’re knee-deep in organizing the closet that’s needed attention for months. Or years.  And you are most definitely not having that conversation.

We avoid discussions when we imagine that the topic will be difficult, or that it will provoke a conflict. Sometimes we avoid conversations because we anticipate disappointing or hurting the other person. It’s the reason why we ghost.

The thing is, humans suck at accurately predicting how we’ll feel in the future. We consistently overrate the level of discomfort we’ll feel having a tough conversation – and we almost always fail to predict the possibility that the conversation will make us feel better. So why do we act as though we have this magical power?

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