Archive for May 2018

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Dear Dr. Darcy: I have tried to do so many things with my life and I consistently fail. I tried to become a customer service representative but was fired because I never know what to say in the heat of the moment. I’m just not good at politics and being politically correct.  Then I tried to work in retail – if you think I was bad at customer service, you should have seen me at retail. And just recently I went back to school to finish my degree (I tend to quit things before I complete them) which I never finished and because I’m not a good writer, I bought a paper online and used it as my own and got caught and expelled.  I am at my wit’s end. I don’t know what to do. I just want a simple life, an easy job that doesn’t stress me out and that I can do with minimal mistakes.

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Dear Dr. Darcy,
I don’t know what’s happened to me lately.  I can’t seem to get it together and do what I need to do to manage my life.  I find myself overwhelmed by small things like the phone ringing or a knock at the door.  I’m not returning phone calls, I’m not opening mail, I’m avoiding friends and family and I look for reasons not to leave the house.

I wasn’t always like this.  I went to an Ivy League school, made a ton of money in my 20’s & 30’s.  Now I’m in my early 40’s and I don’t want to do anything that I absolutely don’t have to do.  I was laid off from work about 3 years ago and started my own company which is both a blessing and curse.  It allows me the flexibility to work 3-5 hours daily and make enough money so that I don’t have to touch savings, but it also allows me to work from home, so I essentially never leave the house.  I haven’t had a relationship in almost 5 years and I’m not really motivated to meet anyone. I’m just feeling drained and unmotivated in life. Is this what happens in one’s 40’s?

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Dear Dr. Darcy:
I’ve been dating an awesome woman for about 9 months.  She’s adult and fun and has seen me at my worst and still thinks I’m awesome.  About two months ago, I started to find myself bored by our formerly good sex life.
Under normal circumstances, I would take this as a sign that we aren’t really a match.  One of my friends called me on this, noting that I’ve said similar things about similarly awesome women in the past.  And been utterly and consistently smitten and lustful about more tempestuous and less available women.
How can I tell if this is growing pains for me and the relationship or not the right match?

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Dear Dr. Darcy:
I’m from the East Coast. I just moved to the West Coast about a year ago with my wife and daughter. My daughter is in middle school.  We just enrolled her into a very prestigious private school which any child is lucky to get accepted to. This weekend she brought home her new best friend for a sleepover. The girl’s mother came to pick her up the next day, and she turns out to be my ex-wife.

I moved here to get away from my past. My ex-wife and I had a terrible divorce. She thinks I left her penniless and the truth is I didn’t have the money the judge awarded her.  The point is this issue led to years and years of litigation between us. Seeing her in my new shiny home, face-to-face with my second wife made my skin crawl.

I don’t want to deny my daughter her best friend. I don’t quite know how to handle this. I’m seriously considering transferring my daughter to a new school so I don’t have to deal with my ex wife on a consistent basis. Would that make me, as you put like to put it, a douchebag?

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Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’ve HAD IT with the way women treat me! Lesbians are CRAZY. I recently moved to a new city to get a ‘fresh start’ because my ex and I had had such a terrible breakup so I wanted to get away.  Anyway, the same bullshit started happening to me here in my new city. I became friends with one of the biggest party promoters and made the mistake of hooking up with her, which really upset her live-in girlfriend, and I was literally ex-communicated from the entire lesbian community!!

I’ve been stopped from entering clubs, I’ve been unfriended by dozens of my new friends, and I’m really starting to get pissed off. I wasn’t the one who initiated the whole thing! She was as responsible (if not more) than I was! This is so unfair – it’s like she’s getting away with it all and I’m the only one held responsible.  I’m so mad that I’ve decided to make public the emails that my ex-friend (the party promoter) sent me before we hooked up, where she talked about how hot I am and how the passion is completely gone from her relationship. And she also talked shit about a bunch of other high-powered women in the community. I’m letting it all rip. I’m done taking the high ground. Watch out world: I’m pissed off!

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