Is my wife cheating?

Q

Dear Dr. Darcy, Over the last few weeks my wife’s behavior has changed. She has been hanging out with friends almost every night, not coming home until 6AM, having sleepovers (WTF?!), and even ditching our plans to do other things with other people. I’ve expressed to her that I’d like her to find a balance because every single day is excessive [and she says] she just has more energy now [and wants] to be out doing things, having fun.

A

My gut’s saying there’s more to this story than you’re aware of or than you’re sharing… 

Partners don’t make 180-degree changes like this. I’m in the business of change and even when people want to change with everything they’ve got, it’s a slow, arduous process that their bodies fight against.

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5 Game Changers for Your Relationship

Here’s the thing about relationship skills: They’re skills. We’re not born with them. We’re taught them. Most of us are taught them by people who are statistically more likely to be divorced than happily married: Our parents.

Luckily we’re never too old to learn something new.

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Can a cheater change?

Q

Dear Dr. Darcy, 

I just caught my partner of 3 years cheating on me. I am destroyed. Like, gutted. 

I have never been a jealous person, but lately I saw her looking at her phone and smiling and just got a weird feeling, so yes, I checked her phone.

Not only has she been cheating, she appears to be having another relationship. 

I don’t know what hurts worse: The idea of her fucking another person or the idea that she probably has feelings for this person!!!

Is it possible for a cheater to change? And if so, is it possible to forgive the person and ever recover as a couple?

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Why You Attract Losers

It never fails. Every time you end a relationship, your girlfriends tell you that they thought you were too good for your ex. They never really understood what you saw in him/her, or why you couldn’t see the warning signs that were so obvious to them.

Everyone falls for a loser now and then. But if you find yourself repeatedly scratching your head about why you seem to be attracted to painfully wrong partners, chances are you’ve fallen into one of these categories…

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Over 30 and Single AF?

“How are you still single?”

It’s a question that pulsates with a subtext that roughly translates to WTF is wrong with you that’s undetectable to me? 

Hearing it often enough can drive you to download the first dating app your phone offers up, then white-knuckle your way through mediocre dates in an effort to cross the 3-month line. 

And because it’s your goal, it reads as desperation, which means you never do. 

So you focus on work. Or your interests. Or nothing at all, but you also don’t channel your energy into finding a partner. 

Suddenly you blink and you find yourself over thirty and wanting a relationship, yet feeling ill-equipped to enter the dating arena because you lack the experience of your peers. 

No worries. I got you. Here are some truths you probably hadn’t contemplated:

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