#MeToo

Q Dear Dr. D, I’m divorced from a 8-year relationship, 2 of which were married. I do not regret the divorce. I find myself now in a situation where a life coach and mentor I know for the last 5-years has made his feelings known to me but I don’t feel like entering the complications…

Read More

Together. Forever?

Just typing that subject line made me sweat a little – and I’m female. I’ve been socialized to want a long-term relationship. And in terms of how I’m hardwired, there’s nothing about me that avoids commitment. So, if that subject made me uncomfortable, I can only imagine how it made you feel. For me, the…

Read More

My Struggle with Wanting to Look Cool

There’s a quote from one of my favorite movies, Almost Famous, that epitomizes my struggle: “The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” I know this. Intellectually…

Read More

The #1 Relationship Myth [debunked]

Q. Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’ve been talking to this guy for 5 months. At first neither of us wanted anything serious but I’m almost 30 and my friends are getting engaged left and right and my family’s putting pressure on me to settle down. It’s like this ticking clock follows me everywhere.

Read More

Step Out of The Closet Before Pushing Others

Q:  After coming out at 18 I was in a horrible relationship with my ex-girlfriend for 3 years. My best friend at the time helped me cope and we started dating. It’s now been 3 years and I love him but I’m confused. I feel like I am a closet lesbian dating a closet gay man. 

Read More