Coming Out

Here’s the thing about relationship skills: They’re skills. We’re not born with them. We’re taught them. Most of us are taught them by people who are statistically more likely to be divorced than happily married: Our parents.   Luckily we’re never too old to learn something new. But to turn ...

I have been dating a guy who always has to be touching me, even when we are sitting watching TV. The few times we were intimate I’m there physically but not emotionally. I don't know why I can't be touchy like he is.   My last relationship was really bad and ...

It wasn’t the worst fuck up imaginable, but it was not good.  I was on a podcast talking about Johnny Depp and Amber Heard’s trial, and the host asked me to explain what it means when someone is diagnosed with both borderline personality disorder and histrionic personality disorder.  “So what ...

“For better or for worse.” It’s probably the most widely used phrase exchanged in wedding ceremonies. And I have a problem with it. I’m all for making a commitment to the person I love. And I’m all for loyalty. And I’ll tell you a secret: When I love someone, I ...

The number of emails I’ve gotten this week to weigh in on the Depp-Heard trial is almost equal to the amount of spam I’ve gotten in the same timeframe.  Every outlet is looking for experts to judge who the crazy one is. The irony of being asked to defame one ...

It’s not that I’m a grudge holder. Really. In fact, several years ago when I catapulted myself into a journey of forgiveness for someone who had wronged me, I measured my capacity for forgiveness at the outset, and it turned out I’m in the normal-range of forgivers. It’s the apology ...