Beware Of These 7 Relationship-Killing Text Mistakes

I recently became the Global Ambassador for Tinder. It’s a side gig. I’m still a shrink. Still blogging. Actually, blogging more than ever – just for other publications in addition to ADD (<- Ask Dr. Darcy, though the acronym is ironic given that I have ADD).

I signed on with Tinder because of the appeal in reaching/teaching millions of swipers dating and relationship skills.

The experience has reinforced many of my instinctive beliefs about what attracts and repels people, and it’s also turned me into something of an online dating guru:  I can tell you if your profile and app interactions are encouraging left or right swipes, and why.

But matching is just the first step.

How you interact after you match is where the rubber meets the road.
Click below for my list of texting DON’Ts and WHYs:

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This is why you’re still single

I just spent an hour researching the search term, “why you’re still alone.” I’ve never seen a topic riddled with more apathetic answers devoid of encouraging people to take personal responsibility in all the years I’ve been blogging.  Here’s a sample of what I found during that hour of my life that I’ll never get back:

“You just haven’t found the right person yet.”

“You’re being selective – it’s a good thing.”

“You have standards.”

“You’ve been hurt and you’re defensive but it’s ok.

“You haven’t made it a priority.”

“Real connections are rare.”

Really?

So I guess I have to be the bearer of truth and tell you the truth about why you’re still single.

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5 Texting Fails You Won’t (easily) Recover From

I recently became the Global Ambassador for Tinder. It’s a side gig. I’m still a shrink. Still blogging. Actually, blogging more than ever – just for other publications in addition to ADD (<- Ask Dr. Darcy, though the acronym is ironic given that I have ADD).

I signed on with Tinder because of the appeal in reaching/teaching millions of swipers dating and relationship skills.

The experience has reinforced many of my instinctive beliefs about what attracts and repels people, and it’s also turned me into something of an online dating guru:  I can tell you if your profile and app interactions are encouraging left or right swipes, and why.

But matching is just the first step.

How you interact after you match is where the rubber meets the road.
Click below for my list of texting DON’Ts and WHYs:

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Lonely Lesbian

I’m in my 20’s and I’m lonely but I don’t know how to meet other girls.  I’m just realizing that I’m probably gay, my family has no idea and won’t for the foreseeable future, and most of my friends are straight and don’t know I’m gay.  Consequently, I’m alone a lot and I don’t have…

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