Why Love Is Actually Irrelevant to the Success of Your Relationship

Relationship success is a science.

Long-term love has less to do with the falling part than it does with the maintaining part.

We’re all familiar with the falling, if not through first-hand experience then from movies, music, and social media. Media of every kind loves to highlight the beginnings of relationships: The meeting, the dating, and if the planets are aligned, the marrying.

And that’s where society loses interest – just when the relationship starts getting real.

Love isn’t all you need. Because like all emotions, love ebbs and flows. It’s not sustainable.

Click below to learn the only thing relevant to the success of a long-term relationship.

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It’s Breakup Day

It’s the most wonderful time of the year.
Unless you’re in a relationship and it’s creeping up on December 11th.

It is, statistically speaking, the greatest day of reckoning in the calendar year – the day you’re most likely to initiate or find yourself on the receiving end of being dumped.

In fact, breakups peak during the entire week of December 11th.

Click below to learn how to get through this week with your relationship still intact.

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Why LOVE is irrelevant to the success of your relationship

Relationship success is a science.

Long-term love has less to do with the falling part than it does with the maintaining part.

We’re all familiar with the falling, if not through first-hand experience then from movies, music, and social media. Media of every kind loves to highlight the beginnings of relationships: The meeting, the dating, and if the planets are aligned, the marrying.

And that’s where society loses interest – just when the relationship starts getting real.

Love isn’t all you need. Because like all emotions, love ebbs and flows. It’s not sustainable.

Click below to learn the only thing relevant to the success of a long-term relationship.

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Forty. Fucking. Nine.

And just like that, I blinked and hit the big four nine.  You’d think at my age I wouldn’t feel compelled to announce it. Would, perhaps, be more content to fly under the radar, requiring those who wonder to Google it.  

I won’t deny that I thought about keeping quiet. I hate the self-indulgence of publishing a ‘me’ story. I get a good amount of attention. I don’t need a parade on my birthday.

But then a little voice inside my head questioned whether I was playing into a female stereotype:

The ‘aging’ woman who buys into the expectation that with each passing year, she will fade and become a little more invisible.

And that’s all it took to get my inner rebel stirred up.

Here’s what I think about entering the last year of my 40’s and facing down fifty.

Holy shit. I can’t believe I just wrote that.

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The Secret To My Perfect Relationship

Almost every day I find myself sitting across from a client who’s struggling with relationship envy, only the relationship that they’re envious of doesn’t really exist. It’s a curated version of a relationship (or, relationships) that they see on Facebook and Instagram. If you’re popular on social media, it’s because you follow certain unspoken rules:…

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Just Say No

Dear Dr. Darcy:  I just got married this past summer to my girlfriend of 3 years. She’s very close to her family to the point that we vacation with them every summer (just locally at the beach). This year, someone came up with the idea to vacation together mid-winter, which means we’ll be flying off…

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How Soon Is Too Soon To Move In?

Dear Dr. Darcy:  I want to move in with my boyfriend. We’ve been dating 8 months and my lease is up in 5 weeks. He doesn’t think we’ve dated long enough but if we don’t move in now, we’ll be dating at least another year before my new lease is up. It really feels like…

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