When Is Enough Enough?

Dr. Darcy, I’m a 40-year old woman who fell in love with a woman for the first time. It is like nothing I have ever experienced. But I have a problem with her talking and hanging out with her ex, who she admits still has feelings for her. She even told me they hung out one night and watched a movie. It was late so her ex slept on the couch (later I found out that she slept in her bed fully clothed but NOTHING happened…hard to believe right?) [My girlfriend] is 48, her ex is 28 – BIG difference in age but the 28 year old knows how to play mind games. My girlfriend suffers from mental illnesses such as BPD [borderline personality disorder], anxiety & PTSD. 

 

Question is when is enough ENOUGH??! I’m confused beyond belief as to what to believe anymore. My girlfriend says she is just a friend – they’ve known each other for 2 years but only dated 3 months). Never had sex with her but being new to the girlfriend/girlfriend situation, I thought exploring with your fingers and kissing were sex?? I feel as though I can’t break up with her but I can’t stand feeling like this anymore…

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The Lesbian Bridesmaid

Dear Dr. Darcy: I have 3 daughters, the middle daughter (straight) is getting married, and youngest daughter (gay) was asked to be in bridal party.  The 2 sisters are having a fight because the bride wants sister to wear a… dress (the gay daughter NEVER wears a dress), and, as a result, the gay sister…

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Why Your Facebook Relationship Status Matters

Dear Dr. Darcy: My girlfriend of 2 months has not changed her relationship status from single to in a relationship on her Facebook wall. I know it sounds stupid but it makes me feel insecure about being with her. The only reason someone doesn’t want to do it is to be able to still date.…

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Transference: The Unwelcome Crush

Screen shot 2013-07-08 at 10.27.50 AM Dear Dr. Darcy: I am a 26-year old student, studying for my Baccalaureate of Social Work. I’ve been working with a trauma therapist since November and about a month ago, I realized that I am gay- despite having previously been married to a man and having two (amazing) children.…

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Born Again Lesbian

Screen shot 2013-01-03 at 10.26.05 AM Dear Dr. Darcy: I am extremely confused. I am 32 and have been in relationships with men, to whom I have been attracted, all my life. However, I discovered an intense attraction to women in college. This attraction seemed to grow, and I often have a female friend with…

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Avoidant Personality Disorder

Screen shot 2012-07-10 at 11.11.15 AM Dear Dr. Darcy: I grew up with a father who is bipolar (which for finical reasons I am currently living with) and I feel I have Avoidant Personality Disorder because I am 35 and never been on a date or had a girl friend although I would really like…

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Lonely Lesbian

I’m in my 20’s and I’m lonely but I don’t know how to meet other girls.  I’m just realizing that I’m probably gay, my family has no idea and won’t for the foreseeable future, and most of my friends are straight and don’t know I’m gay.  Consequently, I’m alone a lot and I don’t have…

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Mixed Signals

Screen shot 2012-01-02 at 10.11.02 AM Dear Dr. Darcy: This girl and I, both 22-year old females, have been college classmates for a few years but started hanging out lately.  The first time we hung out was a few weeks ago where we drank at her house. She was buzzed but not drunk. I had…

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