Why Don’t I Feel Connected in My Relationship — Even Though We Talk All the Time?

Most of us think we’re getting emotionally smarter because we consume mental-health content. We follow therapists. We save coping tools. We quote boundaries. We tell ourselves we’re “doing the work.” But in today’s episode, I ask an uncomfortable question I’ve been circling for years: What if some of the content ...

We like to believe that using emotional language protects our relationships. But often, that language protects us from them. It’s the moment someone points out something you did, and before sadness, guilt, or hurt can register, your body reacts to being implicated. You’re not in pain yet—you’re exposed. You haven’t ...

Most people come to therapy asking some version of the same question: Why do I keep having the same fight in different relationships? They’ve changed partners, changed circumstances, and even changed how they communicate—yet the emotional outcome remains stubbornly familiar. In my clinical work—and in my own marriage—I’ve seen how ...

A couple of months ago, I interviewed New York Times bestselling author, Molly Roden Winter. Her book, “More: A Memoir of Open Marriage” documents her journey as a Brooklyn Mom who ventures into the world of polyamory, as she opens her marriage.  My interview with her sparked such a buzz ...

In the west, monogamy is our default relationship model. But, to be clear, monogamy is a social construct. It is not inherent to our biology.  That’s an important fact to keep in mind throughout today’s conversation with New York Times Best Selling author, Molly Roden Winter, whose recent book “More: ...

In my work as a therapist, I often hear people say, “I know what happened — I was there.” And that’s true. But their partner was there too — and they didn’t experience it the same way. This is where many relationships quietly go off track. We tend to treat ...