Guess who you get to meet in this episode? My WIFE, Steph Sterling.  Today’s topic is all about communication. And in the spirit of walking the walk, I felt there’d be no better person to have this conversation with than the person who is on the receiving end of the ...

If you have experience with long-term relationships, you probably expect the wild passion of the beginning to fade over time. It’s a bit of a trade off: You accept that in exchange for diminishing fireworks, you get the comfort and security that comes from being in a stable, committed relationship. ...

Divorce isn’t a topic I discuss regularly.  It’s not that I’m in denial. But as a relationship therapist, people generally come to me to avoid the D word.  However, once divorce is on the table, guiding my client through the process can feel like we’re a team of two in ...

In the west, monogamy is our default relationship model. But, to be clear, monogamy is a social construct. It is not inherent to our biology.  That’s an important fact to keep in mind throughout today’s conversation with New York Times Best Selling author, Molly Roden Winter, whose recent book “More: ...

What you may not know about Post Traumatic Stress Disorder is that talk therapy is more likely to retraumatize you than to heal you.  There’s a neurological explanation for why talk therapy is often ineffective for trauma: Talking about the bad thing that happened opens up the same networks in ...

Most people think they have a history of picking the wrong partner. They describe themselves as having a “bad picker.” The problem was in their choice of partner — not in how they co-managed the relationship.  Today, I’m making the argument that we all pick the wrong partner.  You will ...