When She Says “Don’t Stop,” Please Keep Going
Dr. Darcy, I keep having the same disappointing experience when I have casual sex. I get really close to finishing when the guy suddenly slows down and it lessens my orgasm.
I even say, “Don’t Stop!”
WTF?
WTF is the first thought that pops into my head as well, but since it’s happened with multiple partners, I would definitely try doing something different.
I think you’ve got 3 options here:
- Get on top so you can control the pace yourself.
- Give the next guy a head’s up that when you say Don’t stop, you mean it (you can do it while you’re hooking up. It’s all in the delivery. You can make it sexy).
- Try saying something different like faster or harder.
I was going to suggest that you consider finding someone who you can regularly have sex with — ideally someone you’ve trained out of this incomprehensible habit — but if this is indicative of how well the guys you date listen, it seems right to me that they don’t meet criteria for a long-term relationship.
Writer’s Demographics
Gender: Female
Sexual Orientation: Straight