V is for Vulnerability this Valentine’s Day

It’s the key ingredient to a healthy relationship – and the hallmark to a healthy intimate relationship.

I know this.

Intellectually.

I’ve personally experienced the deep connection and sense of belonging that comes when I’ve taken down my wall and allowed another person to see who I truly am – flaws and all.

And as great as it may feel on the other side – when the person with whom I’ve been vulnerable responds with kindness and compassion and says they care about me even more because I’ve been real with them – no matter how good this new bond may feel, I never get there intentionally.

It is generally my conscious intent to avoid that very dynamic: the one where I’m exposed to personal judgement or rejection. Keep reading to see how I struggle with vulnerability…

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My Struggle with Wanting to Look Cool

There’s a quote from one of my favorite movies, Almost Famous, that epitomizes my struggle: “The only true currency in this bankrupt world is what you share with someone else when you’re uncool.” I know this. Intellectually…

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