Beware Of These 7 Relationship-Killing Text Mistakes

I recently became the Global Ambassador for Tinder. It’s a side gig. I’m still a shrink. Still blogging. Actually, blogging more than ever – just for other publications in addition to ADD (<- Ask Dr. Darcy, though the acronym is ironic given that I have ADD).

I signed on with Tinder because of the appeal in reaching/teaching millions of swipers dating and relationship skills.

The experience has reinforced many of my instinctive beliefs about what attracts and repels people, and it’s also turned me into something of an online dating guru:  I can tell you if your profile and app interactions are encouraging left or right swipes, and why.

But matching is just the first step.

How you interact after you match is where the rubber meets the road.
Click below for my list of texting DON’Ts and WHYs:

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How To Master The First Kiss

Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’m a man in my early 30’s looking for a relationship. Back in college I had a really bad experience and I think it’s interfering with me finding a woman today. What happened was I hooked up with a girl one night after a party and the next day she told me she didn’t want to see me anymore because there wasn’t chemistry. Later that day my fraternity brothers told me that she told all her sorority sisters that I was an awful kisser. Ever since then I have awful thoughts floating in my head when I’m about to lean in for the first kiss. I’m convinced that the sorority girl is right and that I must suck as a kisser and not surprisingly I rarely get past the first kiss with a woman. How important is the first kiss? Is there a general way that women like to be kissed? Or maybe some common mistakes you can point out to me that guys make when kissing? Please help a brother out.

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5 Texting Fails You Won’t (easily) Recover From

I recently became the Global Ambassador for Tinder. It’s a side gig. I’m still a shrink. Still blogging. Actually, blogging more than ever – just for other publications in addition to ADD (<- Ask Dr. Darcy, though the acronym is ironic given that I have ADD).

I signed on with Tinder because of the appeal in reaching/teaching millions of swipers dating and relationship skills.

The experience has reinforced many of my instinctive beliefs about what attracts and repels people, and it’s also turned me into something of an online dating guru:  I can tell you if your profile and app interactions are encouraging left or right swipes, and why.

But matching is just the first step.

How you interact after you match is where the rubber meets the road.
Click below for my list of texting DON’Ts and WHYs:

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11 Tips To Fix Lesbian Bed Death

Lesbian bed death is not necessarily symptomatic of a doomed relationship and it’s certainly not a phenomenon exclusive to the lesbian community. Pair any gender combination in a long-term relationship and most will report a decline in sexual activity over time.  What I’ve found in my work with couples is that the more I focus…

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Lady Chastity

Dear Dr. Darcy: 

My ex-boyfriend was quite kinky and was always introducing new things to the relationship. I wasn’t all the way into it but went along with it to make him happy. As part of a “cuckolding” and “male chastity” scene, he introduced me to my current girlfriend. The scene was hotter than I expected and we hit if off. I stayed in touch with her and things progressed to the point where I ended things with my ex-bf and started dating her.

Now the twist. My ex was so sad and devastated from the break up that he wanted to stay friends, like to actually spend time with me. I felt bad for him but I wanted to be fair to my new girl. So… um… I made him a deal. If he stayed locked in his chastity cage with me keeping the keys then we could hang as friends. The moment he took it off would be done forever.

I thought he would last a week or two and we’d part ways. Instead it was almost a month before he finally begged to be unlocked. By that time I was enjoying our platonic relationship and even sorta getting off on being his “keyholder” and teasing him. Is this fair?

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The Importance of the First Kiss

Dear Dr. Darcy:

I’m a man in my early 30’s looking for a relationship. Back in college I had a really bad experience and I think it’s interfering with me finding a woman today. What happened was I hooked up with a girl one night after a party and the next day she told me she didn’t want to see me anymore because there wasn’t chemistry. Later that day my fraternity brothers told me that she told all her sorority sisters that I was an awful kisser. Ever since then I have awful thoughts floating in my head when I’m about to lean in for the first kiss. I’m convinced that the sorority girl is right and that I must suck as a kisser and not surprisingly I rarely get past the first kiss with a woman. How important is the first kiss? Is there a general way that women like to be kissed? Or maybe some common mistakes you can point out to me that guys make when kissing? Please help a brother out.

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