Posts Tagged ‘Relationships’
Why You Lack Self-Awareness
If you find yourself having the same issues in your relationships – intimate or platonic – it’s not a coincidence: It’s a lack of self-awareness.
People with self-awareness know what their strengths and weaknesses are, and they know how those weaknesses affect others.
You have opportunities on a daily basis to learn about yourself, to gain valuable insights from the world so that you make new mistakes.
If you can’t rattle off 5 of your biggest weaknesses within 2 minutes (I just tried to confirm that’s a reasonable timeframe), it means there’s a way you’re moving through the world that’s keeping you from coming face to face with reality. Click below to read 7 things you’re doing to avoid the truth.
Read MoreWhy Love Is Actually Irrelevant to the Success of Your Relationship
Relationship success is a science.
Long-term love has less to do with the falling part than it does with the maintaining part.
We’re all familiar with the falling, if not through first-hand experience then from movies, music, and social media. Media of every kind loves to highlight the beginnings of relationships: The meeting, the dating, and if the planets are aligned, the marrying.
And that’s where society loses interest – just when the relationship starts getting real.
Love isn’t all you need. Because like all emotions, love ebbs and flows. It’s not sustainable.
Click below to learn the only thing relevant to the success of a long-term relationship.
Read MoreTop 7 Ways To Spot A Cheater
A couple of weeks ago I answered a question about cheating and it became one of the most popular blogs on AskDrDarcy, which is saying a lot seeing as I’ve posted well over a thousand blogs in the decade since launching.
So, I spent the last week putting together a list of ways to spot a cheater.
Read MoreWhat My Assistant Taught Me About Communication – Personal
I don’t expect professional relationships to work effortlessly – particularly when they’re mine.
I say that because, as a relationship expert, I encourage the people I work with to check in with me about how our relationship is going. And I remind them to do it pretty often.
The result, not surprisingly, is that every couple of months, I find myself on the receiving end of ‘feedback.’
I place ‘feedback’ in proverbial air quotes since it generally makes me cringe – because although my fantasy involves my phone blowing up with declarations of how amazing I am to work with, the reality of those conversations generally plays out differently. Click here to see how my ‘feedback’ generally goes.
Read MoreWhy You Lack Self-Awareness
If you find yourself having the same issues in your relationships – intimate or platonic – it’s not a coincidence: It’s a lack of self-awareness.
People with self-awareness know what their strengths and weaknesses are, and they know how those weaknesses affect others.
You have opportunities on a daily basis to learn about yourself, to gain valuable insights from the world so that you make new mistakes.
If you can’t rattle off 5 of your biggest weaknesses within 2 minutes (I just tried to confirm that’s a reasonable timeframe), it means there’s a way you’re moving through the world that’s keeping you from coming face to face with reality. Click below to read 7 things you’re doing to avoid the truth.
Read MoreWhy LOVE is irrelevant to the success of your relationship
Relationship success is a science.
Long-term love has less to do with the falling part than it does with the maintaining part.
We’re all familiar with the falling, if not through first-hand experience then from movies, music, and social media. Media of every kind loves to highlight the beginnings of relationships: The meeting, the dating, and if the planets are aligned, the marrying.
And that’s where society loses interest – just when the relationship starts getting real.
Love isn’t all you need. Because like all emotions, love ebbs and flows. It’s not sustainable.
Click below to learn the only thing relevant to the success of a long-term relationship.
Read More7 Ways Texting Can Kill A Relationship
Texting is a necessary part of life – particularly in our personal lives.
As a therapist, I love the transparency that texting provides me. Gone are the days when I used to rely on a client’s ability to accurately retell a conversation of what transpired outside of session. Texting, for me, is the equivalent of going directly to the videotape.
Not a day goes by without someone thrusting their phone in my face, saying, “Can you believe this?!”
I can believe it, because I’ve seen it all.
In fact, I’ve seen so many texting faux pas that today I offer you the 7 Most Common Text Mistakes I see people make which cause their conversations (and often, their relationships) to implode.
Read More7 Questions to Ask on A First Date
When it comes to relationships, what you don’t know can in fact hurt you.
You know this. Your relationship history has taught you this. If you’d known [insert your ex’s negative trait here] at the beginning of that relationship, you’d have gotten out a hell of a lot sooner.
The thing is, you only get the answers to the questions you’re willing to ask, and when it comes to first dates (or the first several dates), people pussy out of asking the tough questions.
My ability to spot the end of a friend’s relationship by the friend’s third date has become so reliable that I have to physically restrain myself from rolling my eyes (or from blurting out, Hey, coming attractions: This one’s gonna crash and burn inside of six months) when I hear the stories containing the warning signs…
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