How do I choose between a guy and my best friend?

Dear Darcy, 

I ended up sleeping with my best friend’s ex and now she hates me… 

A couple of weeks before I did it I asked her hypothetically if it would be okay and she said no, however, when I [slept with him] she and I were having severe problems and I saw her ex as more my friend than as her ex. He was very close to me at the time and I had feelings for him and I acted on them. I regret what I did and now I have to choose between him and her and I’m not sure that I can do that… what do I do?

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Doom and Gloom: Dealing With A Chronic Complainer

Dear Dr. Darcy: I have a close friend who complains about her life constantly.  She’s in a bad relationship (or none at all), she’s underutilized at work, she’s fat, ugly, still in love with an ex – you name it, she’s annoyed by it. Some of it’s true (not her being ugly) but she doesn’t do anything to change those things. It’s to the point where when I see her name pop up on my phone, I ask myself if I’m feeling strong enough to withstand her negativity without it sucking the life out of me. I feel guilty because she’s never done anything to hurt me, but when faced with having to see her, I find myself wishing I’d get the stomach flu to have an excuse to cancel. Am I an asshole?

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