Micro-Marriages: Because “till death do us part” isn’t great odds.

Marriage, today, is a very long partnership. Half a century or more, if you do it in your 20’s and you’re lucky enough to live out the average lifespan in the USA: 77. 

When I think about the length of that intended commitment, I wonder how reasonable it is that we expect anyone to make it. 

I’m going to use a very unromantic analogy here: 

Making a long-term commitment can be a little like a teacher who gets tenure. 

You just don’t try as hard. 

Because you don’t have to. 

You’ve got job security.

There’s no meaningful annual review because you know they can’t fire you. 

And with marriage, the emphasis is on honoring the commitment. Not on how each of you shows up.

Over the years, I have often thought that we’d be better quality partners if our commitments were shorter. Time-limited. 

If, instead of promising forever, we made micro-commitments. If we had marriages. 

Three years. Five years. Pick your interval. 

That way there’s an incentive to keep working at it. To keep trying.

Because both partners know that there’s a date by when they’ll meet to reevaluate how happy they are. How compatible they still are. 

How fulfilled they are.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

  • What a micro-marriage is and how it differs from a traditional marriage.
  • The psychological benefits of a micro-marriage.
  • How to suggest a micro-marriage to your partner if you’re so inclined.

AND… for the critics who would judge me for proposing micro-marriages, I explain the ways in which micro-marriages already exist in society today. So there. 😉 

Xxoo Darcy

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