You’re Not the Problem—But You Might Be Dating One

On paper, you’ve got it together.
You’re successful. Emotionally intelligent. Self-aware—or at least working on it.

So why don’t your relationships reflect that?

• Why do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners?
• Why do they always seem like a match at first—only to reveal they aren’t?
• Why does connection turn into confusion?

If this hits, you’re not alone.
There’s a particular kind of person—high-functioning, outwardly confident, often seen as a “catch”—who wonders to themselves: Is it me?

Here’s the twist: Sometimes, it’s not you.
You’re just dating the wrong person.
And that chemistry you feel? You might be confusing it with red flags.

But even if you’re not the problem, staying in these dynamics makes you part of it.

In this episode, You’re Not the Problem—But You Might Be Dating One, I’m joined by psychologist and relationship expert Dr. Karin Anderson Abrell, host of the podcast Love & Life. Together, we explore:

• Why high-achieving women often end up in low-quality relationships.
• How to recognize emotionally unavailable or narcissistic partners early.
• Why smart people ignore red flags—and how to stop.
• What it means to over function in love.
• How to break the cycle of dating the same person with a different face.

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