You Will Pick The Wrong Partner — Here’s Why It Doesn’t Matter

Every secure relationship is prone to disagreements because the people in the relationship have unique histories, wounds, opinions, thoughts, and world views.  Disagreements are not fights. Fights happen when people lack relationship skills or the self-discipline to employ relationship skills.  But even the most therapy-savvy veteran can find herself waist-deep ...

When you think about bottom lines in relationships, most of us land on a short list of behaviors we’d never tolerate from a partner — or anyone we’re in relationship with. It’s important for each of us to know what those bottom lines are, and to share them with our ...

I recently sat down with Lindsey Metselaar, host of We Met At Acme, and the response from that podcast has been unprecedented. Among the highlights:  My personal experiences (as the client) in therapy. The importance of the chemistry between your therapist and you. The 3 stages of relationships.   Click ...

Dear Dr. Darcy, I am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years and have known him since we were teenagers. During lockdown we started our relationship. Quickly my intuition told me that he is drawn to other women and I would see him flirt a lot which made ...

So, last week I’m at the gynecologist’s office because she wanted to biopsy me on the last day of my period. “Your bloodwork shows that you shouldn’t be bleeding anymore.” “I mean, it’s not like I’m randomly bleeding, right? It’s a period?” “I want to check the cells to make ...

Dr. Darcy, my boyfriend says he loves me for me but when we’re having a fight, he wants me to turn into a different person and if I don’t he walks away and leaves my place and it makes me FURIOUS and only escalates things.   I’m a fiery person and ...